六十四卦 / 第 38 卦
睽
Fire up, water down: opposite directions. Agreement on the big things is not available. Work on the small overlap, and verify the intention before imagining it.
离（Fire）上 · 兑（Lake）下
土宫 · 四世卦 · 世4应1
小事吉。
象曰：上火下泽，睽；君子以同而异。
象曰：上火下泽，睽；君子以同而异。
两个人看到的东西不一样。
睽是上火下泽：火往上、泽往下，方向相反。占到睽，讲的是「分歧」——你和对方理解不同、目标不同。卦辞说「小事吉」：大事合不来，小事可以。睽的处理方式是「同而异」：承认不同，在共同点上合作。最后一爻很有意思：先以为是强盗（载鬼一车），后来发现是来提亲的（匪寇婚媾）——误会往往是自己想象出来的。
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行 动
- 别指望对方完全认同你，先找能合作的那一小块
- 在冲突里先确认对方真实的意图，别自己脑补
- 大事暂时不要合，小事可以一起做
English reading
Fire up, water down: opposite directions. Agreement on the big things is not available. Work on the small overlap, and verify the intention before imagining it.
oppositionmisunderstandingcommon ground
六 爻 辞
初九
悔亡，丧马勿逐，自复，见恶人无咎。
初爻（阳）
九二
遇主于巷，无咎。
二爻（阳）
六三
见舆曳，其牛掣，其人天且劓，无初有终。
三爻（阴）
九四
睽孤，遇元夫，交孚，厉无咎。
四爻（阳）
六五
悔亡，厥宗噬肤，往何咎。
五爻（阴）
上九
睽孤，见豕负涂，载鬼一车，先张之弧，后说之弧，匪寇婚媾。
上爻（阳）
八 宫 装 卦
以本宫五行为「我」，排出纳甲干支、六亲、世应与六神。起卦解卦用的就是这张表。
| 六神 | 六亲 | 爻位 | 干支 | 五行 | 世应 |
|---|---|---|---|---|---|
| 玄武 | 父母 | 上九 | 己巳 | 火 | |
| 白虎 | 兄弟 | 六五 | 己未 | 土 | |
| 螣蛇 | 子孙 | 九四 | 己酉 | 金 | 世 |
| 勾陈 | 兄弟 | 六三 | 丁丑 | 土 | |
| 朱雀 | 官鬼 | 九二 | 丁卯 | 木 | |
| 青龙 | 父母 | 初九 | 丁巳 | 火 | 应 |
同宫近卦
10
履
Treading on the tiger's tail without being bitten. Position and manners are the entire safety system here. Move, but check the reaction at each step.
14
大有
Fire in the sky: light that sees everything, and therefore can hold it. Abundance comes with an obligation to be explicit about who gets what.
19
临
Earth above the lake, looking down with care. The good window is real and dated — build the structures while you still have the vantage.
21
噬嗑
Thunder and lightning: clarity plus decisiveness. Something is lodged between the jaws — it must be bitten through before anything closes properly.
30
离
Fire on fire: brightness that must cling to something to exist. Choose your fuel carefully — flame has no shape of its own.
35
晋
The sun rising above the earth. Advancement, visibility, being received three times in a day. Show your worth — but do not become the rat that hoards the position.